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Relationships, YOUR VIBRATIONS Vol. 2, No. 3 - 3.23.08 Hello! This month is my birthday and that means that a new year is beginning for me. What could be a better time for reflection? The great conclusion is that I need to structure my life to create the conditions that allow me to feel centered. The truth is that I am always on the go, for my family… and for you, because of my commitment to all of my clients and students, to everyone who could benefit from something I could offer. I want to be prepared, to offer alternatives, have everything in order, but there's always something more to do, some detail to attend to! Actually, deep down, my True Self knows that none of that matters. Deep down, I know that each of us is in this place, at this time, because we came to share the unique combination of our talents and skills. To do so, we don't need phones, email, calendars and programs. All we need is the intention to share who we are and to grow. It is enough for the needed conditions to arise, for us to find the means. Huge efforts and racing around are not needed. Sharing who we are is easy and exciting because it only consists of BEING. So, in this new year that begins for me, in spite of my great love for my family and my commitment to my friends, clients and students, the first priority will be me. The ancestor of Western Reiki, Hawayo Takata, taught that the most important thing is treating ourselves, that we should not treat someone in need first and leave ourselves as a secondary priority. I know that my contributions will be greater and better if my soul and my body are nurtured and strong. I know I need time for reflection and for Reiki. From now on I will guarantee that I have it each day, before anything else. We are all energetically connected to other people through energetic chords that connect our energy fields. Have you ever felt anxious to be with someone because their presence fills you up? It happens often when we are falling in love, for example. What we do is send out an energy chord to that person's energy field and, through the chord, absorb their energy. As in love, it is not necessarily a bad thing, because chances are that person is filling up with our energy by the same token. This process is rarely conscious, but occasionally it can be very draining. There may be someone in your life who needs you very much, but the relationship leaves you feeling unsatisfied in the best cases and exhausted in the worst. What makes matters worse is that we don't have habits of good energy hygiene. In other words, we don't learn to disconnect the chords regularly in order to maintain the integrity of our energy. Therefore, it is recommendable, each night before sleep, to do a quick review of the people you have interacted with and that you have thought of (thought is enough to send energy chords). Then, establish the intention of pulling back your energy chords and disconnecting the ones that are connected to you, of cleaning your energy field. Concentrate on your second chakra, the area approximately two fingers below your navel and take your breath there. Visualize that your breath is white, clean, healing light. Repeat three or four times and then express gratitude because your energy field is free of chords. Now you are ready for sleep! There are chords that do not fully separate, they belong to the people who are closest to you, the ones that live with you on the physical or emotional planes. These chords can be cleared through the process described above, they stop sucking energy, but they do not pull back or disconnect. In some cases, these people can cause much harm. An example would be a physically or emotionally abusive partner. Yo could possibly want to disconnect this chord, which means breaking the bond between you. It is an important decision, which requires reflection about the consequences in the long and short term. It is not something that should be done lightly. But if you should decide that you do need to disconnect this person from your life, then you can do it through a meditation similar to the one described above, but that includes quick cutting movements in front of your second chakra with the intention of cutting the chords of that relationship. Each day we outdo ourselves for others, for our immediate family, for our coworkers, for our boss or our relatives, for our friends Some of our relationships strengthen and nurture us, they are the ones that help us keep going, the ones that keep us feeling vibrant. And then there are some that suck our energy and leave us drained and bitter. Sometimes it is a good idea to stop and analyze our relationships, how we participate in them and what we do as a reflect, without thinking. Our next CONNECTIONS gathering (Friday, March 14th) will give us the chance to reflect on the relationships that complicate our lives. We will do Reiju, the temporary empowerment (its effect lasts only a few days) that allows us to channel Reiki energy, to heal the aspects that harm us of those relationships. We will try to find a way to transform them for the good of all involved. It will take strength and courage to carefully observe something that causes us pain, but it will also be beautifully freeing. Wishing you peace and joy,
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